Thursday, May 7, 2009

The army is trying to send my brother to IRAQ again for the 3rd time...he isn't mentally well?

My brother has been to Iraq two times now they are trying to send him there for a third time but he isn't mentally well....he was supposed to get out in March 2008 but they back locked him in or some crap....but my question is what can myself and my family do to make sure that they don't send him back over there? I know there has to be something....I'm sure God will protect him but the fact remains that my brother isnt mentally stable...he has nightmares and a bad bad temper...from being over there he even has a skin condition that causes him to sweat alot even though it may be cold outside...he is the only brother I have and it really takes a toll on me mentally and physically everytime he is sent away what can we do PLEASE HELP!!

The army is trying to send my brother to IRAQ again for the 3rd time...he isn't mentally well?
I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I really don't know what to tell you, but I just wanted to tell you to tell your brother thank you for your sacrifice.





Bless him.
Reply:He is going to have to talk to Mental Health at his hospital...they are the only ones that can say if he is mentally "well" or not...there have been a bunch of soldiers who have been there three or four times...they Stopped Lossed him...it happens all the time..happened before the war and will probably happen long after...he will still be able to get out when he returns from Iraq...
Reply:if they want to send him back to Iraq you cant do anything.


my bf has been their 3 times and he is going to come home for a year and then go back for a 4th time so we cant do anything but pray that this war will end soon so they dont have to go back over their and my bf has been thier for the last 2 year without coming home at all
Reply:Get him into treatment right away. PTSD is what he has. Trust me, they will try to screw him by tossing him for a behaviour discharge or something. Tell him to see the docs and get it all down on paper.
Reply:Did he ever have his post deployment mental health exam? Have him see a counselor at mental/behavioral health. It sounds like some symptoms of PTSD. The predeployment and field training exercises could really trigger him. He needs to start talking to someone soon. The diagnosis should set him at nondeployable status and they can place him on Read D so he could continue with his therapy. If he is still active duty, he is at their needs and they may still deploy him. After his visit and assessment at mental health, he needs to talk to his CO and get the assessment to them. Good luck and please feel free to e-mail me if you have any questions.
Reply:If you can get a Army Doctor to issue a Section 8 discharge, he can get out, but otherwise he is stcuk. There are alot of soldiers in Iraq who are on anti-depressant, anti-anxiety, or other medications for their mental health. Realistically he will have to go. You might want to talk to a civlian lawyer who specializes in military law to give your brother advice.
Reply:You mentioned that he is your only brother... I assume that he is the only living heir to your father's name. He may be exempt on a technicality. He needs mental health but think about this; he may suffer more if he lets his friends go back and he doesn't go with them. That was a huge problem in Vietnam, survivor's guilt. We pulled out people individually and not as a unit. Those that got home worried about their friends still in combat. We don't do that now but the unit has to return and he may regret the rest of his life if something happened to one of his friends.
Reply:Unless they can certify him as mentally unfit--I doubt that your brother is going to be able to escape serving a third tour.





And a fourth.





And a fifth.





These army jagoffs don't care much for their own soldiers' well being.





And neither does our own government.
Reply:Dear concerned relative:


You need to do a couple of things; however, you also have to move swiftly - even still there is no guarantee this will work, but here it goes:


1. Obtain medical documentation from medical records that belong to your brother - he may have seen both a Medical Doctor and possibly a Mental Health professional at the current place of assignment.


2. Attached are links to the Senate and House in Washington DC. Find out who your representatives are and write them. Then call the staffers in the DC office and find out when the Senators and Congressmen/women are back home.


3. Congress takes a break during the month of August - this will be your best chance to get a hold of these people at your location.


4. Do NOT attempt this if your information is only half together - you need to spend the time, burn the midnight oil, and have all of your ducks in order before you speak with these people; else, you will be sent back to the drawing board.


5. Be persistent, consistent, and most of all POLITE. Anger, the display of emotional feelings, and other subjective unprofessional emotional displays will NOT be to your or your brother's benefit. Be and act like a professional Attorney - it is the only way to get this done.





Best of luck to you - the rest now is in your corner. Follow the links to find out who represents you - remember to vote - and thank your brother for me for HIS SERVICE, I for one am grateful.
Reply:Bad temper and nightmares? Tell him to join the club! Contact your Congressman!





Please DO NOT listen to Ted the Sped! The last thing your brother needs to do is fake an injury like Teddy suggests. Do it right and do it legal!
Reply:A doctor has to clear him to go, if the doctor doesn't find him to be in mental/physical condition for deployment, they can halt his deployment status until a full evaluation is done. If he is not receiving help he needs to seek it immediately and/or you and your family need to contact his command or chaplain if he has not been seen or is choosing not to see medical personell for the issues he is having.





DON'T yell at the command. Do explain you are truly worried about him, that he hasn't been acting himself. Explain what it is he is doing and that you would greatly appreciate any help they can render him.





Keep in mind please, PTSD and Combat Stress are different. He sounds more PTSD BUT, I am not a doctor, nor have I seen him to evaluate his symptoms.





I have sympathy for your brother in those regards. If he does not seek treatment, that is his own doing. He may want to go back. You'd be amazed how many of them actually want to go back.
Reply:Sorry, they don't care about your brother
Reply:Have him go to the Mental Health unit on the post and have them determine if he is mentally fit to be deployed.
Reply:I agree with Max. Get your Congressman involved.


GO to his or her office and sit there until you are seen.


The advice about being polite and calm is crap too.


If he can control himself he doesn't have a problem.


Use the Red Cross, Church and whatever else you can.


If your Senator won't do anything go to the press.


Has anyone ever heard of Chytridiomycota?

I know it's the oldest living fungi. My brother removed a vey old stump a year ago. He swears he now has this is in his body. He can see them "move". He has been to the ER and they call it I forgot, its a pretty common skin condition. However he breaks out, scratches it and puts any kind of medicine he can to try and get rid of it.


He swears that once you see them and recognize them, they are terrible looking. He is convienced they are in his blood stream.


If he had Medical insurance, he would get better help. He has contacted the Health Department and they are at the site now investigating this stump. Because they have "seen something unusuall" what, I don't know, they are bringing in a Specialist in Biology. Has anyone ever heard of this fungi or had it? Please help, My brother asked me to research today to see how he can get rid of it and/or what will kill it. He is going through chemicals such as bleach to clean the shower and Peroxide on his shin. He said he is so tired Help

Has anyone ever heard of Chytridiomycota?
Chytridiomycota is a phylum of the Fungi kingdom. The name refers to the chytridium (from the Greek chytridion, meaning "little pot"): the structure containing unreleased spores. In older classifications, chytrids (except the recently established order Spizellomycetales) were placed in the Class Phycomycetes under the Subdivision Myxomycophyta of the Kingdom Fungi. Also, in an older and more restricted sense (not used here), the term "chytrids" referred just to those fungi in the order Chytridiales.





The chytrids are the most primitive of the fungi and are mostly saprobic (degrading chitin and keratin). Many chytrids are aquatic (mostly found in fresh water). There are approximately 1,000 chytrid species, in 127 genera, distributed among 5 orders.





Both zoospores and gametes of the chytrids are mobile by their flagella, one whiplash per individual. The thalli are coenocytic and usually form no true mycelium (having rhizoids instead). Some species are unicellular.





Some chytrid species are known to kill amphibians in large numbers. The actual process, however, is unknown. The infection is referred to as chytridiomycosis. Decline in frog populations led to the discovery of chytridomycosis in 1998 in Australia and Panama. Chytrids may also infect plant species; in particular, maize-attacking and alfalfa-attacking species have been described. Synchytrium endobioticum is an important potato pathogen.





Thats all there is.
Reply:is it dangerous?


What is the use of folic acid during pregnancy?

folic acid supplement is often given to pregnant mothers what role does it play,on the body and could it be harmful to the unborn baby,could it be the cause of some skin condition on a newly born child or what could be the reason for a newly born child to suffer from eczema??

What is the use of folic acid during pregnancy?
In a round-about way, the above answer is basically saying that folic acid prevents a specific birth defect called spina bifida, which is when the spinal column is not closed and requires surgery to close it. It can be severe enough to cause permanent, life-long disability and paralysis.
Reply:Folic Acid is a critical part of spinal fluid and helps close the tube housing the central nervous system; also helps synthesize DNA and normalize brain function.
Reply:What you need to know:


Folic acid, a B vitamin, helps prevent birth defects of the brain and spinal cord when taken very early in pregnancy. It is available in most multivitamins, as a folic acid-only supplement and in some foods.





Some studies suggest that folic acid may also protect women and men from stroke, colon cancer and breast cancer.





What you can do:


Take a multivitamin with 400 micrograms of folic acid every day before pregnancy and during early pregnancy, as part of a healthy diet.





Eat a healthy diet that includes foods that contain folate, the natural form of the vitamin. Such foods include fortified breakfast cereals, dried beans, leafy green vegetables and orange juice.





If you have already had a pregnancy affected by a birth defect of the brain or spinal cord, ask your health care provider how much folic acid you need. Studies have shown that taking a larger dose of folic acid daily can reduce the risk of having another affected pregnancy. The larger dose needs to be taken at least one month before pregnancy and in the first trimester of pregnancy. The recommended dose is 4 milligrams (4,000 micrograms).





Take Folic Acid Before You're Pregnant








What Is Folic Acid and Why Does Your Baby Need it?


Folic acid is a naturally occurring B vitamin that helps a baby's neural tube—the part of a developing baby that becomes the brain and spinal cord—develop properly. It must be taken before and during early pregnancy when the neural tube is developing.





The best way to get enough folic acid is to take a multivitamin with 400 micrograms of folic acid in it and eat a healthy diet. Most multivitamins have this amount, but check the label to be sure. You also can get folic acid in your diet, but it's hard to get enough every day through food alone. That's why the March of Dimes encourages all women of childbearing age to take a multivitamin containing folic acid every day as part of a healthy diet.





Folic acid works, but it only works if taken before and during the first few weeks of pregnancy, when the neural tube is developing into the brain and spinal cord. When the neural tube does not close properly, a baby is born with a very serious birth defect called a neural tube defect (NTD). About 3,000 pregnancies are affected by NTDs each year in the United States. If all women took adequate folic acid before conception and during pregnancy, up to 70 percent of NTDs could be prevented.


Folic acid has no known toxic level. If you ate a bowl of fully fortified cereal (400 micrograms), took a folic acid supplement (400 micrograms), and ate fortified foods and foods rich in folate, you would not get too much folic acid. Even in very high amounts, folic acid is non-toxic. Still, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends that women consume no more than 1,000 micrograms of synthetic folic acid a day





Folic Acid in Foods


Folic acid is found in the following foods:





Fortified breakfast cereals such as Total and Product 19


Lentils


Asparagus


Spinach


Black beans


Peanuts (only if you do not have a peanut allergy)


Orange juice (from concentrate is best)


Enriched breads and pasta


Romaine lettuce


Broccoli


Folic Acid Is Good for Mom and Dad Too


In recent years, doctors have come to realize that folic acid is very important for everyone in maintaining health. It has long been known that folic acid plays an important role in the production of normal red blood cells. More recent studies suggest that folic acid may help prevent stroke, colon and breast cancer.
Reply:Folic Acid is one of the most essential vitamins needed for the development of your baby. The lack of folic acid will risk your baby from spinia bifida and even orofacial cleft. I am 6 weeks pregnant now and is taking folic acid 5mg daily together with other essential vitamins.





Eating the right amount of food like fruits and vegetables coupled with the right vitamins will help develop a healthy baby. Skin problems for newborn babies occur if the mothers themselves lack the essential nutrients. So eat healthy food and sleep early. Good luck to both of us.
Reply:Folic acid plays an important role in DNA synthesis. It ovoids the malformation of new reproductive cells causing some serious birth defects called nueral tube defects such as spina bifida and annencephaly. It should be taken 2-3 months before conception. Spina bifida is the incomplete closure of neural tube any where in the spinal chord, and requires surgery to the new born baby. It can be mild to severe causing life long disabilites. Annencephaly is uniformly fatal, it is the incomplete closure of nueral tube at the cephalic end of the tube and it is incompatible with life. Annencephalic babies wont survive more than 3 days and it is a devastating disorder. Women who affected with spina bifida and annencephaly in previous pregnancy should take 5 mg of folic acid along with vitamin b12 and vitamin b6 to avoid the recurrence. Folic acid helps 70% of this birth defects although not completely eliminate the risk. More over folic acid prevents miscarriages, heart attack, cancer and other health defects. More over folic acid has no toxic level and it will not cause any harmful to your baby, rather it does good things to u and your new born baby. Contact your health care provider for more details.
Reply:Helps prevent Neural tube defects and Spina Bifida. No bad side effects.


What is a good bleaching/ Fading cream that I can purchase over the counter?

I have a hyper pigmentation skin condition. dark patches that have spread all over my body . I want to lighten them. looks really bad.





thanks

What is a good bleaching/ Fading cream that I can purchase over the counter?
you would need to see a dermatologist. over the counter products dont really work for people of color. they are not strong enough. get a prescription and things should get better
Reply:a natural remedy is lemon juice from a fresh lemon.....give it a try... [can't hurt]......

street fighting

What is dermagraphia?

I know it is a skin condition, is it genetic or hederitory? Is there any treatment?

What is dermagraphia?
Dermatographic urticaria (also known as dermographism, dermatographism or"skin writing")is a skin disorder seen in about 5 percent of the population,in which the skin becomes raised and inflamed when touched, even lightly. Dermatographic urticaria is caused by mast cells in the surface of the skin releasing histamines due to the presence of a weak membrane surrounding the mast cells. The histamines released cause the skin to swell in the affected areas.





This weak membrane easily and rapidly breaks down under physical pressure causing an allegic-like reaction, generally a red welt to appear on the skin. It can often be confused with an allergic reaction to the object causing a scratch, when in fact it is the act of being scratched that causes a welt to appear. These wheals are a subset of hives that appear within minutes, accompanied by a sensation of burning, and/or itchiness. The redness and swelling stays from anywhere upwards of 10 minutes. Often this leads to difficulty sleeping, irritability, and general discomfort.





It can be treated by antihistamines or cromoglicate, as they prevent the histamine from causing the reaction. The underlying cause of dermographism is not known, and can last for many years without relief. 95% of chronic cases are never solved. Sometimes the condition goes away, sometimes it stays forever.It is not a life threatening disease.
Reply:Please see Google search on Dermagraphia or Dermatographia (Skin writing).


What is an Ori?

I was at a revival meeting and an albino man (skin condition?) took the podium and kept saying "Hallowed are the Ori". Then a bunch of people in fatigues and weapons came from nowhere arrested him and took him away. It left everyone with a very ominous feeling. What gives?

What is an Ori?
I guess no one told him that the Ori are all dead! Don't mind him anyway (with his pasty engraved complection) - it's those pesky replicators that you need to keep clear of!
Reply:I think that you have been watching too much 'Stargate'.
Reply:Ori may refer to:





* Ori (genetics), the origin of replication signal for DNA replication (Genetics).


* Ori (Yoruba), a metaphysical concept important to Yoruba spirituality and Orisha worship.


* Ori (Stargate), a godlike race important in the fictional Stargate universe.


* Ori (Korea), a train station in Seoul, South Korea on the Bundang Line. Translates to the word 'Duck' in English.


* Ori, one of the Dwarves named in Norse Mythology (Völuspá 10–16 contains a list of dwarves)


* Ori, a fictional character in J. R. R. Tolkien's fictional universe of Middle-earth.


* Ori (Hebrew), A popular boy's name in Hebrew. Translates to "My Light" in English.


* Orion (constellation), standard astronomical abbreviation
Reply:ORI means Orion.


Orion, in Greek mythology, Boeotian hunter. When Oenopion delayed giving his daughter Merope to him, Orion, when drunk, violated her. Oenopion then blinded him, but his vision was restored by the rays of the sun. The story of Orion's death has many versions. Some state he offended Artemis, who killed him. Others say that he became her favorite hunting companion, but offended Apollo, who loosed a giant scorpion to chase Orion into the sea. Apollo then tricked Artemis into shooting Orion. When she discovered what she had done, she gave way to her grief and immortalized her companion and the scorpion by placing them in the heavens as constellations.


http://www.reference.com/browse/all/Orio...





1398, from Gk. Oarion, of unknown origin, though some speculate on Akkadian Uru-anna "the Light of Heaven." Another Gk. name for it was Kandaon, a title of Ares, god of war, and it is represented in most cultures as a giant (e.g. O.Ir. Caomai "the Armed King," O.N. Orwandil, O.S. Ebuðrung).


http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/O...


Why is david dickinson so orange?

How can anyone possibly like that look?


Does he use fake tan,sunbeds,go on holiday every week or does he have some severe skin condition??

Why is david dickinson so orange?
He bath's in tango!!


Anybody wanna play vet?

Ok here s one of those helpful questions I mentioned in my last question asked:) Told yall I was going to be asking a lot.





Last april (2007) a friend of mine had her buckskin qh gelding suddenly come up with a very weird skin condition. Buck started losing all his hair at first just around the withers then it progressed down his back and belly, soon the poor guy was almost bald all over except for head , mane and tail. We treated it as deer fungus , rain rot..etc but none of the medicatison for that helped. Had a vet come out and he recomeneded mixing bleach with water and sprayign Buck down. Buck did not have the crusty scabby like spots usually associated with rain rot or deer fungus , he was not running a temp or allergic to anything. So what was wrong with him? took us calling a bunch of vets to find out what was wrong. Put down what you think it was, closest to correct answer gets the points:)

Anybody wanna play vet?
That's a good one, to be honest I've never heard of this before, I would guess it might have to do with wrong nutrition, maybe the horse got exposed to a chemical substance in the ground taken in by the horse while grazing or so...


maybe the answer helps me too, I've had a similar problem 20 years ago myself, my hair started to fall out first on the top of my head as a little spot and now I'm bald, but luckily it stopped with the hair on my head...LOL
Reply:OOOPS Report It

Reply:Oh man, I read about this a few months ago. Dang...... Its rare right? I'm coming back to this
Reply:Does the horse have Poco Bueno breeding? I would wonder if the condition was the HERDA condition that has emerged in horses with too much Poco Bueno blood? Not the full on skin sluffing, but a mild case? You have piqued my interest about what it was....can't wait to hear.
Reply:Seasonal Alopecia
Reply:Mange? (Just a guess--I'm no vet!)
Reply:Mange?


I knew a lady that had a gelding. in early spring, he started to lose his hair. He didn't go completely bald, but he lost most of his hair on his sides and rump. It turned out to be mange.
Reply:Most people would say mange. I think its mange and scauld together.
Reply:My first though was mange or something similar. That can cause significant hair loss, but is easily recognized most of the time. Perhaps the other horses were pulling it out or he was rubbing a lot? My friend has a little QH pony colt and last year the same thing happened to him. When shedding season came he basically went bald, and then it all grew back on it's own (and not bald in the shedding sense, bald in the no hair sense). So perhaps it was just an irregularity in shedding patterns.
Reply:Cushings, Mange or Seasonal Alopecia but thats associated with allergies.
Reply:Ringworm?





I had a bout with that a few years ago. Everyone got the little round bald spots except for my recovered septic foal, who was about 2 at the time.





He looked like an Egyptian Mau horse. We had fits getting rid of it.
Reply:I have no ideal what it is, however I had a filly last spring start losing mane like you describe. I washed mane with iodine shampoo several times and It did clear up
Reply:I don't know about Buck, but one of my mares shed ALL of her hair at one time this year. It was weird having a bald horse. The only thing any one could figure was the strange weather we kept having. She was perfectly fine otherwise though.
Reply:Right after I bought my dun gelding I wormed him. He started losing his hair in large patches just like you described. It turns out that he was very wormy and according to the vet had an allergic reaction to all the dead worms in his system. I wormed him again and bathed him in antifungal soap just to be safe. His skin condition cleared right up and new hair growth started almost immediately. Could that be the answer?
Reply:alopecia areata?
Reply:take this horse to a emergency vet IMMEDIATLY!!!!!!!!!!

grappling

Swollen Vagina?

I recently went to the doctor for a itchy, red vagina and butt, which is all on the SAME left side. I was told by my docter that I more than likely have eczema, which is a skin condition.I was given a prescription cream.





My question is, on the one side where this all itches and is irritated, the lower wall of the labia majora (where normally youd feel the bony wall of your vagina) feels bigger than the other normal side and feels enlarged and maybe swollen. My docter didnt mention anything to me about that when I was there so maybe its part of my eczema? But why hasnt it gone away yet? (Its been 5 days?) I didnt know if I should go back to the docter in a few weeks or just wait for my next pap smear (in March)?

Swollen Vagina?
I would go again.. and if you are not happy with what your DOC is saying... switch DOCS!!











I believe that you may have a condition called Hidradenitis Supprativa. It is a condition of re-occurring boils/ cysts/abscesses , that are often misdiagnosed as ingrown hairs, herpes, being unclean and folliculitis. This is a newly diagnosed skin condition , but there is a lot of info out there.


Here is a link :


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hidradeniti...


If this sounds like it might be you, READ it, PRINT it out, and TAKE it to your DOC.


Its better to try to start treatment soon, it can spread over the body if left untreated. These boils can become quite large and painful. Sometimes even lasting for weeks or months , do not attempt to POP them they can then tunnel under your skin and spread all over the body. Most common areas are armpits, groin, binkni line, inner legs, and intimate places and basically anywhere that sweats and rub against clothing. Stress is a big inducer.





There is some support groups at MSN





(http://groups.msn.com/HidradenitisSuppor...





and yahoo, and I am open for questions!


I have had this for 8 years, I was misdiagnosed for a LONG time, It was very embarrassing, painful and scary. I am just trying to help out so you don’t have to wait as long as I did.


Should I care about appearances?

I have a skin condition which leaves a scar when it heals, should I care if people see the scars or not?

Should I care about appearances?
I want to say don't care, because you shouldn't


But I know how hard it is to not care. You try and ignore it but it seems always apparent.





What you have to learn, and it's very hard, is to love yourself. As cheesy and stupid as that may sound, that's the only way to go. A scar does not define who you are, you do.


I have multiple scars on my wrists from accidents, and when people ask, they think i've hurt myself and act weird around me. But my real friends don't care. You can't let someone think you are akward because of something about you.


It makes you unique :-) Maybe you can even find a cool design in it, which could be fun.


I'm sure it's not something you are thrilled about, but make the best of it you can.
Reply:no. they'll get used to it. and the people you want to have as friends in the end won't care
Reply:same here. a lot of times people ask me if im emo because i always wear skinny jeans. When i said no they told me to show them my wrists, and of course, i have a few scars near my wrists from scaring easily. I do care, because emos scare me a bit and i do not want to be called one because of jugdemental people. Just tell them the stories behind the scars. thats what i do. Then they say "oh ok, guess your not emo." I HATE TOASTERS!!!
Reply:no you shouldnt.





But if you are concerned about scaring try this stuff called MEDERMA... i'ts sooooo good!! Heals scars to where you can't even see them! :)
Reply:Depends upon the scar. Go see a dermatologist and discuss any insecurities.
Reply:how bad are the scars because if they are huge than people are obviously gonna look but its nothing to be worried about!


but what really matters is hw you feel about yourself so if it is causing you to have less confidence cover them because you can be the ugliest person or have the most scars in the world but if you have self confidence it wont matter


I SWEAR-havent you ever wondered why the really pretty girls like the average guys and vise-verse?!
Reply:hell no because their 2 cent dont even matter their just sayin it 2 be sayin it but u should care about how u look 2 people if u r happy the way u look then dont give a damn about what people say just worry about how u feel u know that u r good lookin so dont give a damn about what people say
Reply:No, people should love you for who you are! If you are a great guy, it doesn't matter if you have scars! Flaunt what you've got! Let your personality shine through! Be you, and if being you is the best you can be, then you have done enough! Good Luck! I hope that I helped you!
Reply:has your doc told you there's nothing that can be done, how about a dermatologist? cosmetic sugery.....i hope these ideas help.
Reply:DEFINATELY ask your dermotologist or even doctor about prescription scar creams!





They work wonders.


Other than that... just tell your friends you got the scar from some rad motorcycle incident or from taming tigers.
Reply:If it bothers you then you could look into making them less visible. But if it doesn't then go out there and be yourself. If people don't like you for who you are then that is their loss and they probably weren't worth getting to know if they are going to be that shallow. Real beauty is on the inside(this goes for both men and women).


Urgent for a Best Mate!?

My friends ex boyfriend of 3%26amp; a half yrs says stuff to her like:-


I don't see us getting back together but if I am going to give the relationship another chance I need to think about it a bit longer!


He is a country guy dedicated to his work - he is not looking for anyone else and he doesn't want anyone else. She has told him that hes the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with. But he also has pressure at work like if he wants to take on the family business. She has stayed there twice this week and they sleep together but do not have sex - if they do he says he is not using her and that he is just enjoying being by himself! He has asked her to work for him over the summer but he never rings her and when she turns up at his house he doesn't tell her to go away and isn't worried if people including his parents see her car there. He lost a limb in an accident 6yrs back and also has a really bad skin condition (do you think this may be the problem?)

Urgent for a Best Mate!?
I think he has made himself perfectly clear to her. At least he is being honest. Your friend has to accept that is what he wants out of life right now. Who knows, someday he may change his mind and want to settle down. It is now up to her to "Take it or Leave it". If she is ok with the situation, then they are both satisfied. If she's not then, she should go find someone who can return the same feelings. She can't change him.
Reply:sounds like she is desperate for him and he isnt in love with her. It sounds like he cares for her and loves her, but doesnt want to be in a relationship with her. Maybe he didnt answer back because she wasnt willing to believe him