Ladies Help Me Out........?

My boyfriend for the last six months is simply amazeing. He does everything he possibly can to make me happy. he loves me and i love him. We havent had sex yet. Anyways. Yesterday he told me he has a skin condition callled Fordyce spots on his penis. He showed me some websites to confirm and offered to go again for std testing if it would make me more confortable. I know he doesnt have std's because everyone knows he is a virgin. plus he went once before and the doctor confirmed. anyways. these thing are ugley. the pics on the internet are disqusting. His are not even close but he said over the last 4 years they have steadily got worse.





Now i find myself in a confusion of feelings before he told me this i thought i knew i loved him and even have had thoughts of sex and marraige. now i dont know what. i am very confused.





Should i leave him. Or demand a test and stay with him. Ladies put yourself in my shoes and tell me what i should do please.





Thanx much

Ladies Help Me Out........?
if you are confused about your feelings, then I'm sorry but i don't believe it was love. When you love someone you shouldnt have to think twice about anything. Including if he has fordyce, that shouldnt change your feelings.
Reply:i believe you should tell him your feeling about it and tell him that you want him to get tested just to be safe you have stuck beside him for this long.
Reply:I know that it's mean, but if i was in your shoes i would leave him. I'm sorry but i would leave him. Would he stay with you if you had the same problem or something like that?...I think sex is soooo important in life and with this problem you are not gonna enjoy having sex with him. Imagine..!!


Before falling in love with him, end this relationship. I know it's hard. but if you don't do it now, you will probably do it in the future. So, why not now?
Reply:Based on this, which I read online...





"Fordyce spots are normal large, superficial sebaceous (oil-producing) glands seen on the moist tissue that lines some organs and body cavities (mucosal surfaces). The "spots" are asymptomatic and can be found on the head of the penis, the inner foreskin, and, most commonly, at the border of the lips. These sebaceous glands are not associated with hair follicles. These lesions are asymptomatic, but itching or irritation may occur if people treat the bumps inappropriately."





"Fordyce spots: small (1-5mm) bright red or purple papules that can appear on the glans, shaft or scrotum and usually affect younger men. They may occur as a solitary lesion, but frequently appear in crops of 50 to 100. They are painless and not itchy, but may cause embarrassment because of their appearance, or a fear that they might be sexually transmitted. They are abnormally dilated blood vessels, covered by thickened skin. They may bleed if injured or even during intercourse. They are not infectious and their cause is unknown. Although a number of approaches have been tried, there is no simple, reliable treatment to remove them. Troublesome bleeding spots can be sealed with a device that uses a small electric current (electrocautery)."








It sounds like your boyfriend has had them checked, diagnosed, and is telling you the truth. He is confiding in you, and looking for your support. If he has offered, and it makes you feel better, have him get an STD check. Otherwise, I think I would just accept it and him.